I hadn’t grown my horn yet. The thing that would keep the wrong men away, the ones who fetishised and confused me for other-worldly creatures I didn’t know.
“I’ve never been with a Black Woman before.”
I am in fact, a black woman, but not the one this white Australian man was referring to when he invaded my online dating inbox. He meant a caricature, with a large backside, full lips, something tribal and aggressive about the way I dominated as the sexual huntress he imagined me to be.
Read the full story over at Black Ballad
There is no such thing as love at first sight, but it’s easy to fall in love with a stranger.
Continue reading “Stranger than love”
This week, we’re not quite done with all that dating mess! Maame B recounts the subtle racial profiling of online dating in Melbourne, and Abi AK shares a valuable lesson about considering a long term relationship when you live in a transient place like Dubai!
Plus we talk Black British girl magic and the books that you just can’t put down!
Image credit: date by Chameleon Design from the Noun Project
We’re back with a brand new episode all about dating!
Heads up: Happily ever doesn’t necessarily happen for everyone but don’t despair! We talk online dating apps, navigating the interesting dating cultures of Melbourne and Dubai, and how to deal with nonsense boys!
Image credit: online dating by Chameleon Design from the Noun Project
It’s official; dating in Australia is a fool’s game. By that I mean that it’s frustrating, sparse, and unfortunately for me, sometimes mildly racist. More generally though, dating culture is fairly new in Australia, and not wholly successful for non-Aussie’s coming from countries where casual dating is just a part of social life.
Continue reading “Dating: The Australian Edition (Pt.1)”
I am a difficult person. I say that not to be self-deprecating, but because it is a fact. There are lots of things I don’t like, lots of attributes in people that I don’t care for, and many activities I would happily sit out. And yet, most people who meet me will find me mostly agreeable. Which is probably one of the biggest tricks I have ever pulled off because I am really bloody difficult.
Continue reading “On dealing with difficult people”
I’m going to tell you a story. It’s about a boy and a girl doing some dating. It is a story you have heard many variations of before, and so will seem familiar. Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean that lessons cannot be learnt from it. It is not a love story; by that I mean, it does not end in love, or even romance. Yet it still involves dating. Confused? Yes, so was the girl, i.e. Me.
Continue reading “Do the right thing”
I don’t get bored easily. This may come as a surprise to anyone who’s read some of my less inspired tweets (“Much Hip, Very Fashion” – yes, this was a real tweet) but they are usually only boring when I’m occupied with something more interesting to do. I really can remain interested in many things up until the point when I see no more use for them in my life. This often happens quickly. I would say that the death of online dating and my interest in it came about suddenly and with immediate effect.
Continue reading “Why I quit online dating”