The Myth of the Black Unicorn

I hadn’t grown my horn yet. The thing that would keep the wrong men away, the ones who fetishised and confused me for other-worldly creatures I didn’t know.

“Nubian Queen.”
“Ebony Goddess.”
“I’ve never been with a Black Woman before.”

I am in fact, a black woman, but not the one this white Australian man was referring to when he invaded my online dating inbox. He meant a caricature, with a large backside, full lips, something tribal and aggressive about the way I dominated as the sexual huntress he imagined me to be.

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white boy

I wonder about it.

What I heard when you spoke to me that first time. We let our tongues loose on topics like travel and gender inequality in the workplace. You expressed scepticism over whether the latter really still exists, and I went to work trying to convince you with facts. I didn’t remember for long moments that you were a straight white male, that you had little knowledge or need for empathy towards those that didn’t look like you. The ones that carried more than your three monikers.

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Carry-on: Let me tell you this…

We said we wouldn’t leave you high and dry while we’re on hiatus, and you know we never lie!

Here’s a little carry-on for you; a little something that makes your journey a teensy bit better! Take a listen and find out what we’ve been up to!

Oh and don’t forget to use the hashtag #Headscarvesandcarryons to let us know what you thought of this little treat! More to come soon…

Image credit: Handbag by Hermine Blanquart from the Noun Project

The reject queen

I am the rejection queen. I don’t administer too many rejections myself, but I have become an expert at receiving them. Especially the big rejections – the ones that have a larger life impact, that can sway how the rest of your day, week, even year could go. And it’s not something I ever foresaw myself being able to handle really, because at heart I am a pretty sensitive person, who used to be very impacted by the opinions of others. But I suppose age and practice really do make perfect. Or they make for mild desensitisation; it’s unclear.

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Episode 19: Headscarves and Questions

Welcome to our #Askusanything episode!

This week we answer your burning questions – Abi AK describes her experience of being a Christian in a Muslim country, and Maame B explains how she became a therapist and why she didn’t need a medical degree for it! We loved your questions so keep sending them to headscarves.carryons@gmail.com and we might answer them in another episode!

We also do our last spoiler (sorry?) recap of the final episode of season 3 of Insecure!

Have you got a question about life, love and everything in between? Sign up to Maame B’s Tiny Letter (tinyletter.com/maameblue), send her your questions (maameblue@outlook.com) and she’ll answer them anonymously in the next newsletter!

Rate, review and subscribe, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #headscarvesandcarryons to let us know what you thought of the episode!

 

Image credit: Question by parkjisun from the Noun Project

Episode 18: Headscarves and Going Home

 

There’s no place like home, truly; but is that where you want to be?

This week we explore the subject of going home after living abroad. Abi AK talks about her future plans for Dubai and the UK, and Maame B talks through reverse culture shock and feeling like an outsider at home.

We also drag Trump (never gets old), recap on Insecure’s penultimate episode, and give a quick review of Nappily Ever After!