The Myth of the Black Unicorn

I hadn’t grown my horn yet. The thing that would keep the wrong men away, the ones who fetishised and confused me for other-worldly creatures I didn’t know.

“Nubian Queen.”
“Ebony Goddess.”
“I’ve never been with a Black Woman before.”

I am in fact, a black woman, but not the one this white Australian man was referring to when he invaded my online dating inbox. He meant a caricature, with a large backside, full lips, something tribal and aggressive about the way I dominated as the sexual huntress he imagined me to be.

Read the full story over at Black Ballad

Episode 16: Headscarves and Language

Actions speak louder than words, but words help too! This week’s episode is all about language!

Abi AK shares her library of useful Arabic phrases for living and working in Dubai, and Maame B tries to explain what an Esky is, and having to decode regular English words when they’ve been given an Australian twist!

We also drag the US Open umpire trying to ruin two black women’s lives (Serena and Naomi), and recap on Insecure and changing friendships.

Image credit: Globe Speech Bubble by Kathleen Black from the Noun Project

Episode 15: Headscarves and Money

This week is all about money, money, money, money! Money! Specifically, managing your money when living abroad!

Abi AK talks about the best ways to manage a lavish lifestyle in Dubai without breaking the bank, and Maame B discusses saving for a rainy day and becoming a Melbourne deal-chaser! Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe, and use the hashtag #headscarvesandcarryons to let us know what you thought of the episode!

Image credit: currency by icongeek from the Noun Project

Episode 11: Headscarves and Travel

Welcome to episode 11 of Headscarves and Carry-ons!

This week we’re discussing an essential part of living abroad – travelling!

Abi AK shares her experience of travelling throughout the 7 United Arab Emirates, and Maame B tells us why visiting the Northern Territory in Australia feels like being on Mars!

We also discuss banning the Shiggy challenge (aka dancing to Drake’s In My Feelings), and why racism over plastic bags just isn’t worth it!

Image credit: Backpack by Made by Made from the Noun Project

Episode 10: Headscarves and Microaggressions

Welcome to episode 10 of Headscarves and Carry-ons, whoop!

This week we’re talking about microaggressions abroad – the big, the small and the downright ridiculous.

Maame B recounts a chilling experience with the N-word at a comedy show in Melbourne, and Abi AK describes being ferried towards other black people whenever out in public in Dubai!

Image credit: Big hair by john melven from the Noun Project

Episode 8: Headscarves and Dating Pt.2

This week, we’re not quite done with all that dating mess! Maame B recounts the subtle racial profiling of online dating in Melbourne, and Abi AK shares a valuable lesson about considering a long term relationship when you live in a transient place like Dubai!

Plus we talk Black British girl magic and the books that you just can’t put down!

Image credit: date by Chameleon Design from the Noun Project

Episode 6: Headscarves and Friends

Wooh this week we’re celebrating the wonderful art of making friends in a new country!

Be warned: This is not as easy as it sounds! Abi AK recounts getting out of a weird stalker situation, Maame B leans hard on translating social media connections into real-life friendships, and there’s some Love Island chatter because you know we like to stay current!

Image credit: friends by Lluisa Iborra from the Noun Project