I hadn’t grown my horn yet. The thing that would keep the wrong men away, the ones who fetishised and confused me for other-worldly creatures I didn’t know.
“I’ve never been with a Black Woman before.”
I am in fact, a black woman, but not the one this white Australian man was referring to when he invaded my online dating inbox. He meant a caricature, with a large backside, full lips, something tribal and aggressive about the way I dominated as the sexual huntress he imagined me to be.
Read the full story over at Black Ballad
Welcome to another bitesize episode of Headscarves and Carry-ons, aka a carry-on! This week we’re cold, mad, and very reflective because 2018 is over! Listen, like, share…you know the drill by now – and let this tide you over until we return with a brand new season!
Continue reading “Carry-on 2: Cold and Mad”
Actions speak louder than words, but words help too! This week’s episode is all about language!
Abi AK shares her library of useful Arabic phrases for living and working in Dubai, and Maame B tries to explain what an Esky is, and having to decode regular English words when they’ve been given an Australian twist!
We also drag the US Open umpire trying to ruin two black women’s lives (Serena and Naomi), and recap on Insecure and changing friendships.
Image credit: Globe Speech Bubble by Kathleen Black from the Noun Project
This week is all about money, money, money, money! Money! Specifically, managing your money when living abroad!
Abi AK talks about the best ways to manage a lavish lifestyle in Dubai without breaking the bank, and Maame B discusses saving for a rainy day and becoming a Melbourne deal-chaser! Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe, and use the hashtag #headscarvesandcarryons to let us know what you thought of the episode!
Image credit: currency by icongeek from the Noun Project
I can freely acknowledge that this blog has been pretty depressing thus far, which is an accurate representation of what I’ve been feeling. Not depressed exactly, but definitely out of it mentally, trying to find my way back in and make sense of my identity here, in this place. Sometimes you have to go backwards to do that, right?
Continue reading “The women who came before”
Welcome to episode 11 of Headscarves and Carry-ons!
This week we’re discussing an essential part of living abroad – travelling!
Abi AK shares her experience of travelling throughout the 7 United Arab Emirates, and Maame B tells us why visiting the Northern Territory in Australia feels like being on Mars!
We also discuss banning the Shiggy challenge (aka dancing to Drake’s In My Feelings), and why racism over plastic bags just isn’t worth it!
Image credit: Backpack by Made by Made from the Noun Project
Welcome to episode 10 of Headscarves and Carry-ons, whoop!
This week we’re talking about microaggressions abroad – the big, the small and the downright ridiculous.
Maame B recounts a chilling experience with the N-word at a comedy show in Melbourne, and Abi AK describes being ferried towards other black people whenever out in public in Dubai!
Image credit: Big hair by john melven from the Noun Project
This week, we’re not quite done with all that dating mess! Maame B recounts the subtle racial profiling of online dating in Melbourne, and Abi AK shares a valuable lesson about considering a long term relationship when you live in a transient place like Dubai!
Plus we talk Black British girl magic and the books that you just can’t put down!
Image credit: date by Chameleon Design from the Noun Project
Wooh this week we’re celebrating the wonderful art of making friends in a new country!
Be warned: This is not as easy as it sounds! Abi AK recounts getting out of a weird stalker situation, Maame B leans hard on translating social media connections into real-life friendships, and there’s some Love Island chatter because you know we like to stay current!
Image credit: friends by Lluisa Iborra from the Noun Project
This week we’re all about being African abroad!
Abi AK muses over finding Ghana in her home cooking whilst in Dubai, Maame B reveals her basic cleaning to afrobeats routine, and both commiserate over the absence of Ghana in the World Cup!
Image credit: africa by Sergey Demushkin from the Noun Project