I hadn’t grown my horn yet. The thing that would keep the wrong men away, the ones who fetishised and confused me for other-worldly creatures I didn’t know.
“I’ve never been with a Black Woman before.”
I am in fact, a black woman, but not the one this white Australian man was referring to when he invaded my online dating inbox. He meant a caricature, with a large backside, full lips, something tribal and aggressive about the way I dominated as the sexual huntress he imagined me to be.
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I wonder about it.
What I heard when you spoke to me that first time. We let our tongues loose on topics like travel and gender inequality in the workplace. You expressed scepticism over whether the latter really still exists, and I went to work trying to convince you with facts. I didn’t remember for long moments that you were a straight white male, that you had little knowledge or need for empathy towards those that didn’t look like you. The ones that carried more than your three monikers.
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I am the rejection queen. I don’t administer too many rejections myself, but I have become an expert at receiving them. Especially the big rejections – the ones that have a larger life impact, that can sway how the rest of your day, week, even year could go. And it’s not something I ever foresaw myself being able to handle really, because at heart I am a pretty sensitive person, who used to be very impacted by the opinions of others. But I suppose age and practice really do make perfect. Or they make for mild desensitisation; it’s unclear.
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It was a ridiculous journey that I took. I was filled with optimism, hope and sadness as I boarded the plane back home, back to London after 359 days of living in Melbourne.
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If you love something, let it go…on hiatus for a bit. That’s right, this is the last episode of the first season of Headscarves and Carry-ons! We’ve had a blast with you lovely listeners, but now we need some rest and recuperation so we can bring you even more amazing gems in the new year with the next season!
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Welcome to our #Askusanything episode!
This week we answer your burning questions – Abi AK describes her experience of being a Christian in a Muslim country, and Maame B explains how she became a therapist and why she didn’t need a medical degree for it! We loved your questions so keep sending them to firstname.lastname@example.org and we might answer them in another episode!
We also do our last spoiler (sorry?) recap of the final episode of season 3 of Insecure!
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There’s no place like home, truly; but is that where you want to be?
This week we explore the subject of going home after living abroad. Abi AK talks about her future plans for Dubai and the UK, and Maame B talks through reverse culture shock and feeling like an outsider at home.
We also drag Trump (never gets old), recap on Insecure’s penultimate episode, and give a quick review of Nappily Ever After!
I am woman, hear me roar! Hint: This week’s episode is all about being a woman travelling and living abroad!
Abi AK debunks some myths about being a woman in an Arab country, and Maame B has her Western expectations dashed when it comes to being a woman in Australia.
There’s also an Insecure episode recap, and some news on UAE visas and crazy Australian politicians – oooh!
Actions speak louder than words, but words help too! This week’s episode is all about language!
Abi AK shares her library of useful Arabic phrases for living and working in Dubai, and Maame B tries to explain what an Esky is, and having to decode regular English words when they’ve been given an Australian twist!
We also drag the US Open umpire trying to ruin two black women’s lives (Serena and Naomi), and recap on Insecure and changing friendships.
Image credit: Globe Speech Bubble by Kathleen Black from the Noun Project